Oct 24, 2017
When you were a young boy, you were probably very comfortable expressing grief over your losses. When the wheel fell off your favorite choo-choo train, you cried. When you lost your beloved binkie, you cried. If you had a pet that mysteriously disappeared one day, you cried and cried and cried.
All of that crying was helping you to process loss in a way that was meant to bring you wisdom about the bittersweet realities of the world around you. Those emotions were meant to help you build emotional resilience. At some point in your boyhood however, you likely stopped crying -- you weren't a girl or a baby after all -- and anesthetized yourself to all of the feelings of disappointment and sorrow that went along with it. You didn't make this up. It wasn't really a choice. You got the message from so many sources that said this, in one way or another: Big boys don't cry.
Rick Belden talks about how this process impeded your maturation and your ability to fully embrace your own humanity. In this episode, he and Dan talk about ways you can finally start to process grief and discover a kind of strength you never knew you had. They ask us to consider the idea that, maybe after everything we've been through, the real truth is that real men do feel grief and sadness. Real Men, in fact, do cry.
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