Sep 13, 2018
I had the pleasure of having a conversation with Adam Lamb. The idea was to talk about how various types of masculinity impact the workplace. (Side Note: I am trying not to use the term “toxic masculinity” anymore because I realized I fundamentally disagree with it. It is too easy to use that to mean men are toxic or to dismiss outright certain expressions of masculinity that may not be as “cool” or “woke.” The men we most want to reach probably aren’t going to listen if that’s the term we’re using. I’m still working on a new term that better fits. Maybe, traumatized masculinity but I am not sure. I digress.) And we did talk about that. And much more including the role that conscious men - or harmonized men, as Adam talks about it - can take in the ongoing #metoo conversation. It was a cool conversation even if we didn’t quite talk about what I had intended.
Practical Tactical
- Men
need to find a place where they can own all of who they are in
neutrality. In other words: accept themselves and own all of their
imperfections without judgment and shame.
- Join
a men’s group. If you can’t find one, start one! Get on Meetup.com.
There are online resources to guide you on how to do it.
- Body work. Some type of body work. There are numerous ways that we can take care of our bodies. Our spirit is the rider and our body is the horse. Start with something to honor the horse!
You can learn more about Adam at www.Adammlamb.com
Check out his new book An Initiated Man
Adam Lamb was born in Medford Mass in the turbulent 1960's. His mother is a Cuban immigrant and his father was a Professor of Modern Languages at Purdue University. Adam spent most of his life as a professional chef, writing non fiction in between cooking fish. A story teller since an early age, Adam sang in an all original rock and roll band in the 90's, writing all the lyrics, arrangements and recording three cd's with the South Florida band, Blind Pilot. He has three siblings as well as three grown children, and one grandson who all wish to remain nameless lest they get connected, socially, to Adam's infirmity and self indulgence. He is a sought after speaker on the issues of purpose, leading a thriving life and enjoying successful relationships. Following a conversation where the right questions were finally asked, Adam has dedicated himself to paying forward the freedom with which he now lives his life. He now coaches and guides those who are looking to take action in creating the lives they know is possible. He hosts a weekly Facebook Live called 'The Morning MAN-ifesto' and a monthly podcast, 'MAN-ifesto Radio'. Adam’s published works include: Getting Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable, Profanity & Its Proper Use and An Initiated Man, Finally. His newest book, ‘Circle Jerk – Lessons of Manhood My Father Never Taught Me’ is due out in summer 2019.